Yesterday I spoke at an Entrepreneurship Workshop
for women in
the food and
beverage industry curated by
FICCI Flo, Mumbai Chapter and Swayam an initiative by them to
support women entrepreneurs. The audience comprised of students of S.L. Raheja, Flo/Yflo members and women entrepreneurs - home
bakers, confectioners, caterers on The
Journey of becoming an entrepreneur. Other speakers on the panel
included Masterchef Shipra Khanna, CA Ameet Patel, Partner, Sudit K Parekh
& Co and Laxmi Iyer, DY Works.
I
am normally pretty good with speaking in public so I did not think twice about
accepting the engagement. But as the day came closer, I began to get nervous. And
when you’re feeling a certain way, fate conspires to intensify those feelings! I
lost my way, discovered I had a broken sandal (should have stuck to my uniform
of blacks and flats!). I walked in last of all, totally frazzled because I HATE
being late, into a room buzzing over the lovely Shipra Khanna. I quietly slid
into a corner seat and surreptitiously stuck my shoe together with cello tape
as the speaker next to me tapped away at his Ipad. My nervousness had grown.
Put me in an apron, stick a ladle in my hand, give me a food related topic and
watch me go… But this was different. I’d be talking to a roomful of women on a
subject that I was most definitely not an expert. And I was planning to speak extempore from a
set of hand written notes??? What was I thinking… A question I was still asking
as Shipra went up to speak.
And
then it was my turn. I clutched my handwritten pages together and cautiously took
my place at the podium in my taped together shoe. I was visibly
nervous and it came through! I spoke okay, certainly the audience liked what I
said. From the heart I am told. I said a lot; and yet, I came off that stage
very unsatisfied with myself. It’s been nagging at me ever since. I don’t like
delivering less than my best on anything.
Then this morning, Shekhar saw my
notes lying on the side table where I had chucked them in a snit, last night. “These
are gems, they are really valuable” and carefully folded them and tucked them
away. I realized at that moment that I am better writing what I want to say
than speaking it. So I thought I’d share it all here - what I said,
supplemented with things I forgot and a few hind sights…
My
journey
has been one of serendipity. I chanced upon food writing as a career option and
thrived at it. Over the last 15 years I have worked on some fantastic projects,
been part of many wonderful start ups and achieved many wonderful things. In
2012 I launched APB Cook Studio. Until then gambling with myself, my time and
my earnings meant I had only myself to answer to but here it was other people’s
hard earned money and I was responsible for livelihoods.
I am untrained in both food and
journalism/writing. So, most of you in this room (or out there) with a
hospitality degree already have an edge on me. You don’t need to be trained in
the business you want to be in, but knowledge is power. So if you have an opportunity to train, do it, even if it means delaying
your plans a little.
Opportunities in the world of food
today are endless, chef, restaurateur, food writing, food styling, food
photography, food consulting, food PR, wine. There are opportunities
everywhere. You owe it to yourself to
explore your potential, we would not have been gifted the ability to dream if
we were not meant to.
If you decide to start your own
venture. Speak to those you love, families and friends. Becoming an entrepreneur means equations change all around. Life as you
and your family know it WILL CHANGE. Accept that there will be no holidays
(you’ll always be at work in your head). You will need the support of your core
group like never before. For women especially mothers, it will mean you are
constantly juggling work and kids and GUILT! Your husband needs to be there to share 50:50 in all of it and support
you 100%! I would not be where here, today, without the unstinting support
of Shekhar, my husband, both of our mothers and our extended families.
My most finite memory of my journey is
not of the launch, or waiting for that first inquiry. It’s of standing in the
rain, crying, questioning why I’d left my comfort zone and gotten into this. The
only plan since then has been to set a target every month and meet it. To never
reach that low again. And ever-so-often I raise that target. It’s a good plan
because it works. I was asked to talk about business plans. But I can’t. I
don’t have one. I never did. A Business
plan will work as a structure. You could dot every ‘I’ and cross every ‘T’ and
still not succeed. Or you could float a paper boat and conquer the world! There are no maps or blueprints to success.
But have a plan ‘B’ and a plan ‘C’. Back
up plans will help you stay focused when things do not work out instead of
getting emotionally dejected. I am allergic to paper work. Ask me to create a
dish, write an article and see what I do but ask me to write a proposal and I
will sit on it forever. Thank fully I had help!
We all want to be superwomen. But we are just human. Don’t try to do
it all. Recognize your strengths and weaknesses. And work with them. Don’t
sideline financial advisers, legal people or pr and marketing. Timely
investments in these will pay off in the long run. Plan finances so you can pay
for services you require even if it means waiting to earn/save a little more to
meet them. Money saved trying to do a job you aren’t equipped to do, that a
professional could do in a thrice, is not money saved! Its YOUR time wasted, your
time that your business probably needs in a hundred other ways. Money will be recovered, time and
opportunities once passed won’t.
Everyone admires entrepreneurs. And
are ready to help. Many offers of help will come. Recognize genuine ones, and
take advantage of them. There is a time to be wise. Pride will not bring you
business. And there is no loss of pride
in accepting help. And pay it
forward whenever and wherever you can. I recognize every person that has
helped me in my journey. They did it because they could. With no expectations
of being paid back. Today I have a personal rule. If anyone asks me for help, I
help to the best of my abilities. The positive energy is a return I cannot
define.
The
world is not kind. It will throw everything in your face. Hurt, disappointment,
rejection, competition, pure mean-spiritedness will come at you. Don’t focus on
the negatives. Stay focused. Keep your goals in sight and work hard towards
them. And hard as it may be, try to keep
all that negativity out of yourself. Stay positive towards the world. It has a
lot of its own problems. Unhappiness
breeds unhappiness. Happiness is the same. On days when I was low, I would wallow
in my sadness. One day I turned it around. I spent an hour being nice instead.
It soon makes me feel better. Now when I am low I to make other people smile. We are our own medicine. 1 sad person
versus even two happy people make the world a better place, no? And value relationships. Invest in them. We
are not islands. Commerce in life and work cannot happen without them. One of
my biggest assets today is the friendships I have made in the food world. They
have listened to me cry over losses, harangue in anger and celebrated my wins.
They know they can call on me for anything. And I know I can call on them. Remember
bad days end. It might take an hour, a
day or more, but they WILL END!
Have you noticed how much of this has
been about YOU? I am going to use Eggs as an example because I am researching egg less baking. Eggs perform over 20 different functions within baking alone.
There is no substitute for them. But over beat an egg and it will be unable to
expand. You are the egg in your business. You
are your biggest asset. There is no business without you. Recognize that
and look after yourself. Sleep on time, eat healthy and on time, exercise, switch
off periodically, plan for and take breaks. (I say plan because if you don’t,
you might return from breaks to disasters.) Flirt with your husband, love your kids. Get drunk with friends. Get
out, Meet new people. Laugh out loud at silly things, tell stupid jokes, cry
over soppy movies, lose yourself in good books. Every time you do, you will
come back revitalized. You will approach the things that drain you with new
energy. Troubles will seem smaller. And you will realize your space in the
bigger scheme of things.
You have read this far? WOW! No, seriously,
Thank you. But that’s a good thing. Read.
Often and everything. Stay on top of happenings in your line of business.
Become a SME in your subject. It will make all the difference in the long run. Don’t
let ego make you too big to learn. From
anyone! Never ever stop learning.
When I came out of the talk yesterday
I felt like I had focused too much on the hardships, lost my way a little and
missed a couple of key points. I certainly had forgotten to emphasize the most
imp thing. So here it is - I love being
an entrepreneur. I’d do it all over again if I had to. All of what I have
written so far would not have been possible if I had not tried. In the words of
Nanushka, “You cannot make waves if you do not leave the shore”
So take that leap! It’s better to have
tried and failed than never trying. And wondering What if? And success? Faliure?
Success is in your head. You need to
decide what success means to you. I have not defined what it means to me.
But I am savouring the journey. I celebrate
every small win and learn from every failure. Most of all savour the journey… that’s what you will remember, that’s what you
will tell your grandchildren about. The
sweetness of the prize is directly proportional to how hard you have fought for
it.
Rushina
GYAAN
Ficci
Flo is a Not - for - profit industry
body that works to promote women professionals and entrepreneurs. Swayam is an
initiative that is a facilitation platform looking to support and nurture
women entrepreneurs. You can join
the organization through their website - http://www.ficciflo.com.
OMG Rushina! I just happened to stumble upon on your blog and this first post that I read felt as if you were standing in the same room as me.
ReplyDeleteThank you! I have recently left that shore (a steady job and 10 year career in development sector) and taken the plunge since June this year for pursuing home baking full time (leading up to a home business). In fact, am currently doing a Course from Sophia's.
Your post has much meaning for me. Thank you!!
Cheers,
Indrani
these really are precious and timeless learnings Rushina, thanks for sharing them. Most of the times we fail to notice the hardships and pains that are such an integral part behind any achievements. The fear of failure keeps us from trying. I can so much understand and relate to what you have written.
ReplyDeleteThanks once again fro sharing. It reaffirms the values I have grown up with and practice every moment.
Sheetal
Strikes a chord with my experience. I addressed a group of ladies on Friday; came back home and shared almost the same story.
ReplyDeleteA very encouraging post. Thank You